Goodbye 2013, HELLO 2014

Oh My Goodness. 2013 is practically over. (I’m writing this on Monday but it’ll be up on Tuesday night.) It just seems so surreal. 12 months. 365 days. 525,600 minutes. 31,557,600 seconds. If you’re reading this, it means that you’ve survived it. We have survived another year of heartaches, pains, loss, happiness, and basically everything in between. 
I don’t know about you guys, but 2013 hasn’t been the best for me. I mean yeah it could’ve been worse. It wasn’t horrible, but it definitely wasn’t what I was expecting. I felt like in a sense I let myself down. I didn’t meet up to the expectations that I had for myself. I wanted all of these different things to happen and some of them did, but for the most part it wasn’t the best year of my life. Because of that, I’ve come up with a few ways that I can make 2014 the best year of my life. 

1. LET GO OF ANY NEGATIVE ENERGY!
  If there is any that you feel is holding you back from being the person that you want to be, let it go. Whether it be people, music, surroundings, whatever it is, let it go. There is no point in letting yourself be brought down by things of less importance. 

2. ALLOW YOURSELF TO FULLY BE YOURSELF! 
This may seem self explanatory, but a lot of people seem to struggle with this. I know I did, at least for a little this year. At the time, when we’re pretending to be someone we’re not, it doesn’t appear like there is anything wrong with it because we are just so focused on getting other peoples’ approval. When we take a step back long enough to see the damage that our dishonesty has caused, we realize that it really wasn’t worth it. Maybe they would have liked us just being us, or if they wouldn’t have then they don’t deserve to be a part of our lives. That was something that I struggled with, and I just had to realize that if someone really wants to be my friend they will accept me and my true friends won’t mind that sometimes I’m a little loud, or that my laugh is sometimes obnoxious, and I may or may not be fluent in gibberish. That’s who I am. Accept me or not, that’s your problem.


3. BE CONFIDENT!
This year, I learned that everyone struggles with confidence. Not just weak, insecure middle school girls. High school boys, college girls, adults, even a 75 year old. We all have trouble with self-confidence. It comes with the territory of trying to find our place in this world. Yeah, it sucks not believing in yourself but the more that we tell ourselves that we are great and that we can accomplish many things, we will be able to. BUT, remember there is a fine line between confidence and conceit. So whether it’s about talking to that special someone you’ve been dying to talk to all year, trying out for a new sport, or just stepping out of your box and making new friends. Believe that you can accomplish great things and you WILL do great things. 

4. BE POSITIVE!
We all know those people that no matter what is going on, they always seem to find something bad about the day, or life. Even if we don’t want to be a Debbie Downer, that persons’ attitude rubs off on us. So the main way to be positive, SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE! Easy peasy, lemon-squeasy? NOPE. We want to spare other peoples’ feelings so bad that we sometimes tend to put our own feelings on hold. Wrong! You have to be in a good place in your life to be able to accomplish what you want done in the new year, so if you aren’t in a happy place, you will not be able to reach your full potential. 

5. FORGIVE BUT NOT FORGET! 

All our lives, we’ve been told forgive and forget and for the longest time I actually believed that, but towards the end of this year, I realized that yes we need to be forgiving but we should not forget. If we chose to forget, then how are we supposed to learn from our mistakes?? So yes, forgive and don’t hold grudges, but remember what you learned from that experience. That way if anything similar happens in the future, you know how to deal with it. 

By no means am I trying to act like an expert, I just wanted to tell you guys how I plan on having a good year in 2014, and maybe it’ll help you guys have a great year as well.

So for us, let’s forget the pain and heartache of 2013, and embrace 2014 with open arms, a clear conscience, and a willing heart. 

For 2014, be the best year of our lives and treat us right! 

SO CHEERS, AND LET’S CELEBRATE!!

~And that’s the way the cookie crumbles~

BLOGMAS DAY 11

Hey! So I decided that I wanted to do all homemade Christmas presents this year, and that I was only going to give to my real friends. The people that I know I can trust. The people that no matter what happens they will be there for me. My “Ride or Dies.” And after narrowing my list down, I only have twelve people that aren’t family that are getting a Christmas present from me. I realized that over the past three years that I’ve been spending my money on Christmas presents for people that honestly didn’t deserve it. For people that at the end of the day, could care less about my feelings. People that I was always there for, and when I needed them the most, they disappeared. So, I’ve made it a goal for me to realize those people early on. And after analyzing my friend list, I made a few cuts. It may have possibly been one the best decisions I’ve made in my teenage years so far. So, what’s the point of this blog. To help you guys, I want to help you guys 1) Save money this Christmas and 2) notice your “friends” before it’s to late. 

1. Only get presents for close friends 
2. Try to make them from the heart 
3. Make sure that the people you’re getting presents for are worth the hassle 
4. Think six months later, will this gift even be remembered. 

Those are what I thought about when deciding who I’m giving a present to this year, and what I am going to give them. I hope this made some sense for you guys. 

~And that’s the way the cookie crumbles~

BLOGMAS DAY 10

Sorry i haven't put up a blog in a couple days. My semester is almost done and I've had soo much school work to do and I'm sorry. But todays blog is about self. YOU! Me, Myself, and I. Sometimes we spend so much time worrying about other people and their problems,that we forget that we need love and attention too. So during this holiday season, while you're out and about getting presents for everyone, don't forget to take a break every once and a while and just breathe. 

~And that's the way the cookie crumbles~ 

BLOGMAS DAY 4

Hey guys. I hope you've been enjoying my blog posts so far. Today I just wanted to talk about laughing! A strange topic, I know. But I've learned that the best thing to do in awkward or embarrassing situations is just to laugh them off. So no matter what happened this holiday season, from spilling a drink on your crush at a Christmas party or completely tripping up the steps at school. Be able to laugh at yourself, and everything will be okay.  

~And that's the way the cookie crumbles~ 

BLOGMAS DAY 3

Hey guys well I don't feel to good. Tummy ache so today's post is going to be a little bit shorter. Today I wanted to remind you guys the reason for Christmas. We're celebrating the birth of Jesus. I feel that sometimes we take that for granted or sometimes we forget. That's something that should always be in our minds. Yes we should love spending time with our family and friends and getting to waste hours on hours at the mall trying to find that special present for that special someone. It's all important and the reason that we do that is because baby Jesus also got presents. So just remember that throughout this wonderful holiday, don't forget why we celebrate it. 

(FTC: I am in no way trying to force any kind of belief on you guys, this is just what I think and I hope you guys in joyed it.)  

~And that's the way the cookie crumbles~ 

BLOGMAS DAY 2

     BLOGMAS Day 2! So exciting. The days until Christmas are winding down. I’ve been trying to contain my spirit, but today for me was like a flashback in a movie. It seemed like everything that was said just brought up a lot of memories. Some of them were good ones, like getting to travel with my friends and movie nights with my besties, and some of them were bad. From stupid decisions that I’ve made myself, or situations that I let myself be caught up in. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Whether it’s to teach you what not to do, or what you should do better, there is a lesson behind everything in life. And all day, I was trying to come up with a way to block those thoughts out of my mind. Finally, I realized that I can’t. There really isn’t anything that you can do to make something come out of your head. Once it’s in there, it’s in there. So, how can we deal with unwanted memories.
1.Accept that it actually happened.  2. Deal with it. We don’t have time machines, we can’t go back in time and change it
3. Decide whether you’re going to use that experience to help you or hurt you. To help you, recognize the warning signs. Know what to look out for next time. Hurt you, never allow yourself to be at fault for making a bad decision. 

This is basically what I had to do today. I hope it helps. 

~And that’s the way the cookie crumbles~

BLOGMAS DAY 1

Welcome to BLOGMAS! Basically, I’m just going to be posting a blog everyday in December excluding Sunday’s, just because I need a day to just relax, and gather up my thoughts for the following week. BLOGMAS isn’t something organized. I’ll just be posting whatever I feel like for that day. Enough with the intro, here’s my first BLOGMAS.

I was thinking today, about how everything has changed. I looked back and I know exactly where I was a year ago today, how I felt, and the reasons for my emotions. Looking back to 365 days ago, I realize all of the stupid decisions I made. The first one was regarding boys! Ugh! Oh The Horror! I realized that a lot of the crap that I went through was of no one else’s fault but my own. I choose to listen to that stupid little voice telling me, “Go ahead, talk to him, maybe he’s different.” NO! That’s a lie. One of the many lies that girls convince our selves of when we like a guy that we know we shouldn’t even try to talk to. I found myself in that situation, and what did I do? I choose to stay. I choose to listen to everything that he had to say. I choose to accept every insincere apology. STUPID, STUPID, GIRL! Now, how is this going to help you… I’m going to give to you the steps you should take to avoid this problem.
1. Identify the problem. 
As cliché as it may be, it isn’t as easy as it sounds. Many people, like me, chose to ignore that there is even a problem. Does that work in the end? NO!
2. Decide what to do with the problem.
Let’s say that you do identify the problem, you still have to choose whether or not you want to try and fix the problem.
3. Act on your decision. 
Now that you’ve made a decision, put it into action. Whatever it is follow through, because trust me in the end it works out.

That’s my little experience for today, I hope that it helps. Comment down below, tweet me, or email me and let me know if these tips are helpful.

~And that’s the way the cookie crumbles~

December's Excitement

GUYS!!!! IT'S DECEMBER!!! HMMM..... Less than 1 month left in 2013. I can't even believe that the year is almost over. That means that we have survived almost another year of trials, tribulations, and school! That means we're one year closer to being done! Finished with school, drama, and stupid people. GOSH! The fact that I'm a junior in high school makes me feel like I've lived a full life. From all of the things that have happened. I mean c'mon. From boy drama to breaking up friendships. I've had my fair share of mishaps. And I will be telling you guys all about them. So for everyday in December (excluding Sundays) I will be letting you guys into my personal life and telling you guys what I've been through, my choices and also different solution options. I've decided to call it "BLOGMAS"! So keep a look out for those. And also thank you to those who have been reading my blogs. I know I took a long hiatus but only because I had so much going on but now I have a handle on things so my blog posts will be  more frequent! Thanks for all of the support. Love you guys!! 

~And that's the way the cookie crumbles~